I don’t know about you, but I am increasingly finding myself blurring the lines between ‘outdoor’ attire and ‘bedroom’ attire. I’m finding myself choosing which pyjama bottoms I can get away with to wear to Tesco. Am I alone? Doubt it.
Quite frankly, I’m not sure I know how to use a mascara wand anymore and my perfumes are collecting dust like it’s going out of fashion.
After a slight breakdown at the beginning of half term which my long-suffering husband bore the brunt of (sorry James, I do love you very much), I decided enough was enough.
It dawned on me that the majority of the population probably feel this way too. It’s like you’re spread so thinly that you barely resemble you anymore? You’re wearing so many hats that you can no longer even see what you’re doing.
I’ve made a promise to myself that from now on I’m going to make time for me, and I wanted to share some tips that you can pinch to do the same for yourselves too:
- Get dressed every single day
– I’m starting small and work your way up. Having a shower, putting deodorant on and wearing adult ‘day clothes’ (not pyjamas or loungewear) shifts my state of mind and I know that the day’s started.
- Move your body
– this does mean more than just going to and from the kettle. Play with your kids, hoover, clean the fridge, go for a walk, dance to your favourite song, whatever it is, make sure you move your body every single day. Believe me when I say, to have a body that is ambulant and healthy is a real privilege and not to be taken for granted.
- Drink 2 litres of water every single day
– don’t worry I’m not about to turn this into a health and fitness blog. Genuinely, hydration is so essential to good well-being. It keeps your mind alert and all your bodily functions in order.
- Call or meet (for a socially distanced walk) a friend or family member
– I know that homes are busy places at the moment but negotiate a time slot when you can catch up with someone outside of the home. It will soothe your soul and remind you of who you are.
- Read a book/magazine/newspaper
– the reason I am saying read a physical object is because we’ve all been having too much screen time over this period (myself included). Swapping your phone or tablet for a book will let your mind switch of and drift away to a less busy and stressful place.
- Date night with yourself/a friend/partner
– putting a special date in the diary has really helped me keep focussed and also allowed me to have something to look forward to. You can get dressed up (or down), put the kids to bed early and do what makes you happy. Face masks, fancy dinner (lots of restaurants are offering takeaway suppers now), movie or yoga.
Now we’ve got you sorted, let’s turn our attentions to your little ones. Some of my students have been very open about how they’re feeling at the moment and others are completely closed off. You may find the same thing with your children?
Here are some books to spark a little conversation about their feelings:
While We Can’t Hug by Eoin McLaughlin – Hedgehog and Tortoise are two friends who wave to each other, blow kisses, sing songs, dance around and write letters. And even though they can’t hug, and they can’t touch, they both know that they are loved. A gorgeous, uplifting, inspiring picture book that makes social distancing fun!
Today I Feel . . .: An Alphabet of Feelings by Madalena Moniz – An alphabet book that covers feelings from Adored to Zzz …
When Sadness Comes to Call by Eva Eland – beautifully illustrated book about the painful feeling of sadness as if it’s a visitor to engage with, rather than something to fear or avoid.
My Heart by Conrinna Luyken – a gorgeous picture book that teaches us about caring for your own heart and living with kindness and empathy.
The Colour Monster by Anna Llenas – this a good one for children who’re reluctant to tackle their feelings head on and can go on a journey with the colour monster to help him understand his own emotions and to feel a little less mixed up.
“Children almost always hang onto things tighter than their parents think they will.”
– E.B. White, Charlotte’s Web